As we enter the month of National remembrance, there is a lot to think about during these very difficult and sad times.
It’s not just those who fought wars for the freedom of this country but also perhaps to remember the many thousands who have lost their lives as a result of this pandemic.
Over 5 years ago I was contacted by a lady who suffered from severe bi-polar. She was desperate for some help for her husband. He had a heart operation a few years earlier and during the operation, his brain was starved of oxygen. As a result, he lost a considerable amount of his cognitive skills. He was not physically disabled but rather went into his own world a bit like Dementia. She struggled to cope and was constantly calling the Police and Social Services day and night for help. Eventually, he was placed in a Care Home. He was only in his early 60s and most of the residents were over 80 years old. He would not get out of bed and spent most of the time sleeping. She would sit with him all day.
Can we help?
The situation was totally unsuitable for him and it was vital to find a way to get him home. They would need a live-in carer as he was prone to wandering and could not be left alone at any time. Due to her Bi-Polar, she insisted on doing everything for him, so this was quite a challenge for the carers. Things went quite well and her carers became friends that she could trust. As time went by, she was able to manage without full-time carers. As long as she knew the carers were coming in every day for a few hours, she was fine. Her husband improved to the point that his son could take him out to the football, an activity he very much loved. They were beginning to gain some quality of life again.
Just before the lockdown, she developed breast cancer. She told me that she was determined to beat this. Sadly, she suddenly passed away just before completing her treatments.
I am sure we will spend a few minutes on ‘Remembrance Day’ to think of those who have lost a loved one this year, for whatever reason.